We, humans, are social things, and we love to live together. But on the other hand, we all are different. And it’s because we all have unique experiences, interests, behaviors, backgrounds, circles of people, etc.
Most of the time we see people at the office, club, café, or family gatherings, start discussing and arguing about politics, religion, news, careers, entertainment, etc.
And not every time, but most of the time such discussion end with a fight, anger, rude behaviors, or personal comments, etc.
How to in an argument and instead of the anger of rude opinions, how to transfer your idea and message into your opponent’s understanding. And instead of destructive, how we can use discussion for constructive purposes.
Discussion with arguments is not bad, at all times, but you have to understand the skills and game of persuading, influencing, and study the mind of your opponents.
In this post, I am going to share a list of 20 ways to Wins an argument. And influence your opponents with impact and respect in their hearts. With these simple tips and ways, you will be able to only convey your message but build good relations with your opponents.
20 Ways To Win An Argument;
- Explain and convey your point of view with an interesting, emotional, and inspiring story.
- Understand Your opponent’s mentality and personality. And then convey your ideas and information.
- Use powerful words with rapid delivery.
- Quote experts, opinions, advice, and message to clarity and persuade your information
- Control your emotions and temper, and don’t let your emotions control your mind thoughts. If your mind gets emotional, you will forget the facts, data, and logics.
- Clarify and understand your opponent’s point of view in questions.
- Don’t always look for winning, but try to find the place of win-win situations.
- Identify the reasons and logic behind the disagreements of your opponents.
- Stay calm and listen with respect when your opponents are speaking.
- Don’t disagree with everything of your opponents, when you think there is or are valid ideas and information.
- Keep the fundamentals in mind of the topic and subject.
- Look for a common point of view and start developing your arguing messages from this commonly agreed point.
- Use data and numbers to mark the impact in the mind of your opponents.
- Don’t argue to change, but to pass and clear the message and idea. And walk away with respect when you deliver your information.
- Stay calm and soft, when your opponents lose emotions or get angry.
- When your opponents get personal, you don’t need to focus on the facts and don’t get personal.
- Focus and talk about solutions, not problems. When you talk about problems, the problem grows. But when you bring the solution into focus, you win.
- Don’t focus on humiliating or losing your opponents. Keep the aim in mind and the discussion will end with positive results.
- Persuade and use the opponents’ information against his/her belief system without being personal.
- Say, thank you when you believe that your opponent’s information is more accurate than your message and ideas.
Remember, argue to clarify and achieve the common objective and not to win or humiliate the opponents. Listen and communicate in soft language will affect your opponent’s mindset. And if they don’t agree, they will show respect and will listen to your point of view. Learn here more about leadership and self-improvement.